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“Every once in a distant while you find a book that has the ability to take you along on a journey feeling every emotion: the joy, the sorrow, the fear, the wonder, the hope. This...


“What’s Not Allowed? is a shining testament to people with autism being—as Temple Grandin accurately says—“different, not less,” and it will inspire readers to feel society is capable of changing for the better.” ~ Kim...


“The Hedley family story is one for us all: it is a celebration to which we can all relate, evolving into whom we choose to be . . . the journey from what’s not allowed...


“Through their creative videos, Erik and his family powerfully advocate for autism appreciation—that different does not mean wrong and is in fact an important part of the joy that comes from being able to learn...

Welcome to teresahedley.ca

“Teresa and her family are making a difference in the world and are doing what makes them feel joyful. Their products are so insightful, positive, and overall, works of art!”

~ Kathleen Rooney

NEW! Interested in an overview tour of the website?


A Magic Carpet Ride: teresahedley.ca

Join me and Erik as we take you on a magic carpet ride through the website, highlighting resources for caregivers and professionals, including videos and presentations by Erik. Buckle up…and when you’re ready, click the magic carpet to begin. Let’s go!

I just love the overall feeling I got after watching [this]. I felt solike everything was going to be okay…so uplifted and inspired and comforted…and just taken care of in a really cool way!”

~ H.H.


I’m glad you’re here!

I invite you to explore this site, room by room. You’ll find a collection of writing, conversations, reflections, creations and collaborations—about autism and about the human experience.

As you browse, you will also notice quotations—from readers, from colleagues, from the memoir and from our family collection of guiding lights. To me, this is what makes What’s Not Allowed truly a collaborative journey: it is inspired by many. Yes, it takes a village.

You will also notice artwork throughout these pages. These colourful animations are the work of my son Erik, and they are his contribution to our autism article series—“I Have Autism and I Need Your Help.” Each sketch appeared in Autism Matters magazine to illustrate something we were trying to share or explain. Enjoy.

Audio clips also appear throughout this website. I invite you to sit back and listen to an excerpt from What’s Not Allowed? or from I Have Autism and I Need Your Help.

A Dragonfly Epiphany: A Thought to Sustain You

My desire is that this website and the advocacy projects you discover herepresentations, podcasts, programs, audio clips, articles, quotations, videos, webinars and tip sheetsserve as a resource for parents, families, educators, practitioners or anyone who would like to learn more about autism. This collection is ongoing, very much “a work in progress.” ~ Teresa


What’s Not Allowed? A Family Journey with Autism

. . . is my first book. Here’s what endorsers are saying. . .

“Pure brilliance. . . Often funny, yet serious at its root, this book is a portrayal of how love and compassion overcome percentiles and projection.”
Colonel, OMM, CD, Director Military Family Service, Canadian Armed Forces; Ottawa, ON

“I highly recommend this book. Teresa is a gifted storyteller. . .overall a masterful blend of humour and authenticity.”

Canadian Parliamentarian and international autism advocate; Edmonton, AB

“There are a lot of lessons on these pages for all of us, and we can benefit from considering them and acting upon them.”

former anchor and chief correspondent, CBC’s The National; Stratford, ON

“Thank you to the Hedley family for inviting us to see the world through the complex and intriguing lens of autism.”

Canadian Parliamentarian and astronaut; Montreal, QC

“What’s Not Allowed? is a shining testament to people with autism being—as Temple Grandin accurately says—“different, not less,” and it will inspire readers to feel society is capable of changing for the better.”
OT, International Speaker, Consultant, Author; Victoria, BC

“This book not only educates, it inspires.”
MA,CCC/SLP, Build The Brain; Dallas, Texas

“It’s not what happens to you, but what you do about it that matters most in life.”

Farewell 2023: Moving forward with purpose and passion in 2024… Celebrating new beginnings! Cheers, Teresa & family

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Meet Teresa

“Teresa Hedley is a “one of a kind” in the world of autism spectrum disorders: advocate, writer, teacher and parent. She has navigated through the tumultuous expedition armed with a steadfast attitude and a wonderful sense of humour.”

~ Patricia O’Connor

Who am I? Well, it depends on who’s asking. . . but here’s a snapshot to get started:

Teresa Hedley is the author of What’s Not Allowed? A Family Journey with Autism (Wintertickle Press, 2020), a memoir which offers an uplifting approach to mining the best version of each of us—autism or not.

Teresa is also an educator and a curriculum designer. Teaching stints in Canada, Japan, Greece, Spain and Germany have shaped her perspective and inform her writing. As an armed forces family, the Hedleys have lived coast to coast in Canada.

Aiming to build resilience in families living with autism, Teresa and her son Erik co-wrote a twenty-article series for Autism Ontario’s Autism Matters magazine, “I Have Autism and I Need Your Help”
(2012 – 2018).

Teresa worked directly with families and school boards in Ottawa as an autism consultant and advocate. The Hedley family presented at national conferences, on Parliament Hill, Ottawa and on the TEDx stage in Toronto. Check out the Collaborations and Creations tabs for details and for a glimpse at videography through the eyes of autism.

In partnership with the Family Education Centre, Teresa co-designed an interactive online parenting program, Pathways to Potential: Parenting Children & Youth with Autism. See Collaborations/Programs to learn more.

Teresa and her family live and play on Vancouver Island. When she is not gardening, kayaking or filling her pockets with shells and rocks, Teresa continues to write, present and advocate for individuals with autism.

“Teresa’s understanding of autism and her practical management and compassion make a powerful and compelling guide to anyone, professional or parent, family or friend.

Over my 30 year career as a teacher, social worker and mental health clinician, I would have been overjoyed to have this book as a resource for my co-workers and clients. I trust the book will touch you as deeply as it has me.”